The 90/10 Dating Phenomenom

If you’re someone who has dated a lot of people, or maybe you’re in a committed relationship but often ask yourself if they’re the “right” person…I encourage you to reflect or journal on this concept that I thought of! 

First, go through your past partner and write down all the things you liked about them and your comparability. Then ask, why didn’t it work? or what was the main thing that led to the breakup?

Now… go to the next partner. Did they happen to have that value / aspect / trait that you’re previous partner lacked?

and continue on… 

Now I’m not even sure if I’m saying if this is good or bad, especially if the reason you left is for really good reasons (cheating, neglect, abuse) but can you notice any patterns?

Going forward, how can you use this realization so you can find a partner who you are aligned with that you’re okay with whatever that 10% lack is (because seriously… no one ever is going to check every single box. Do you even check every single one of your own boxes?!?!)

PS: photos by Sami Sogge for link x lou